Friday, April 26, 2013

There is no resolve in being angry...

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For a long time I was mad at someone; furious even. I wandered around with this burden on my shoulders, letting it eat away at me and eat away at me. It was something that I just couldn't let go of. I felt entitled to it.

While the rest of my life seemed to be heading in an amazing direction, I was lagging behind in my anger, almost oblivious of all of the good things that encapsulated me. This isn't to say that I didn't enjoy my life, because I did. But at the end of all things good or bad, crept those venomous feelings.

It was so easy to be mad, natural even, but my anger had lived on a lot longer than the reasons behind it. 

This went on for months, until I finally came to this point where I realized that I just couldn't be mad anymore. It was exhausting and toxic, and the only person it affected was me. Nothing would change the past, and as time evaporated so did the meaning behind the apology I so desperately wanted.

I was angry at something that didn't even matter anymore.

The person I was angry at hurt me, and while I spent much time trying to figure out why, it dawned on me that there wasn't a good reason why I got hurt. Sometimes the people we love hurt us, and the reasons behind it have less to do with us than they have to do with the other person. That’s just how it goes sometimes.

With that revelation, the crushing weight of my anger began to lift. I was free from a past that I let haunt me for far too long. I was able to enjoy all of the things in my life that made me happy, without the burden of my anger hanging over me like a dark cloud. I could finally accept and appreciate the past in a logical light and move on from it.

It was liberating.

None of us are exempt from being hurt; we're all human and sometimes we do things that will hurt others. Sometimes it's intentional, sometimes it's not. There is power in letting go and moving on; if not for the other person, do it for yourself. There is no resolve or closure in being angry, it only hinders our ability to enjoy life.

Sometimes the biggest impact a person will make in your life is when and how they leave it. The biggest impact you will make in your own life is how you handle these people and situations.


  1. Great insight, maturity and wisdom.

  2. Its a process. Some takes longer, some takes no time. But , it all has to be processed.